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Pragmatic, reserved and a deep thinker who loves family, sports especially football where am married to two wives: the first, AC Milan who has my loyalty and the second wife, Manchester United who has all my undying love and pampering, lifestyle and society parties. Need I say the law is more than a profession but a lifestyle for me.

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Certainly, it is not too much to ask for all these things. I do not want someone who is going to give up on me at every opportunity she gets and makes loving miserable. I have to be loved like a baby, cared for and protected like a child. She must be my first line of defence and last hope from pain. If anyone picks up a fight with me, he/she is going to have to contend with her too. I want someone who knows that to uncover me before a third party is her shame. I want someone who will not mock in my absence even when it is with her friends.

Look, no one wants a slave for a wife or a robot that exists solely for a specific purpose and I am not an exception. I am also not asking that my woman exists solely for sexual satisfaction; come on she is not a tool although she has to be a freak in the bedroom. I do not know about you, but I sure want a woman with an ambition, one that can focus channelling her energy on her passion. Nevertheless, I do not crave for a woman who cannot draw the line. One who is so consumed with her interests that it jeopardises that of the family at the long run. She just cannot abandon her God ordained purpose of raising a guided family primarily.

In my opinion, the idea of feminism is not just contradictory to the tenets of my faith but a blatant show of lack of knowledge of the primary roles of women. Christians who talk about feminism either have no understanding or as many of us, think they know more than God does because the bible is very clear that a woman ought to be submissive to her man no matter what by respecting him and accepting him as the head, which is why a man is a woman’s crown.
In other words, I seek a woman who is going to respect and honour me. It is very important that though we are equal especially after becoming one, she admire me with enviable distinction. I must be at the centre of her rationale. If she honours me, she will know that she has no business dining with another man or taking a free lunch from him – as insignificant as that may seem. Women often get it confused with being slaves and not allowed to follow their dreams, wrong! In fact, Proverbs 31 lists 31 virtues of women and things that resonate across it are her industry, hard work, multi tasking, organisation, and provision with a high sense of duty mainly to the family.

In other words, women are to pursue their dreams, to fulfil their destiny but they must never let it be more important than their family. She must in the presence of her husband, no matter how wealthy she may be; submit and honour him. Now I hope you do not get me wrong for I am not a domineering man.

In essence, I know similarly that I must work more on myself until I get to that point where protecting, serving, honouring, respecting, shielding, providing for my woman is my ultimate prerogative. It is my duty as a man to make my woman my heaven on earth. To cherish her so much she becomes my treasure. I must know that though I am the head, she is the entire body; our relationship is dependent on each other and we work pari pasu complementing each other because we are in a partnership where she is the light in my world.

Above all, I realise that it is my duty to find this woman no matter how difficult it is rather than compromise on my standards. After all, no one has ever picked diamonds on the streets and even when found, it goes through refining. Nothing good has ever come easily so giving up is not an option. I did not wait for this long to settle for less only to live a desolate life. Therefore, do not blame me if I cannot lower my expectations. I was not brought up that way and God did not make me to settle for less.

Even if I am finding a woman in this age who can still grind pepper on the local stone for that special flavour (I am not saying I am oh) or make bean cake on Saturday mornings, one to rock her suit all day and in a minute look like my fantasy girl when with me. As well as one that can serve us breakfast before work every morning, goes the extra mile to put a smile on our faces; mend my loose buttons, care for me like I were the only thing she lives for, bothered over me because she does not want me hurt.

I am sure all I have to do is find her no matter how long it takes not bargain for less and when I do, I am to provide for her needs and never take advantage of her vulnerability or dependence on me. I must do all to show her that she can feel secured with me and put all her eggs in my basket forever because in me, she will have a man proud and ready to be her servant in love.