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Pragmatic, reserved and a deep thinker who loves family, sports especially football where am married to two wives: the first, AC Milan who has my loyalty and the second wife, Manchester United who has all my undying love and pampering, lifestyle and society parties. Need I say the law is more than a profession but a lifestyle for me.

Adekanye Adeyinka Olajide.

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Konnichiwa (that is hello in Japanese) everyone, yes, I learnt a few words in Japanese just for you. Yesterday was my birthday and it was indeed a significant one. This particular one was very important, as it was a milestone through the special grace of God. It was a reflective one; where I had time to ponder and cast my mind deeply on things I have been through or those I intended to have achieved before this age. As a matter of fact, this was a birthday I had prepared for right from the beginning of the year so every action taken were carefully meditated on before the action.

In no attempt to waste your time, I will like to point out that over the years, I had been able to grasp that I had too many social friends and little number of friends that I had forged a strong relationship. It occurred to me that most of the friends I had only remembered me through these means available and I had been caught too much in the web to realise and take cognisance of those who truly mattered to me and on this part, I had been guilty of failing to carry most of those real friends along. Hence, my first resolve was to take down my birthday dates from all social applications.

I wanted to have real contacts. As you all know if you have paid keen attention to my hubs that the most things I crave for is LOVE. I want to be longed for, felt for, desired, cared for, needed, and above all, made to be feeling a part of something. I want above all things for people to cherish me sincerely making me feel that I am not just valuable to them but that I have earned a place in their heart for them to create a substantial space for me. This for me is what makes life worth living: having people who make your world beautiful to live now that they are in it.

Consequently, it was no shock to me when I had no birthday wish whatsoever on my Facebook compared to over 400 wishes from my more than 1000 friends last year. I was able to separate the wheat from the shaft this year. My real friends needed no notification to remind them, they cared enough to occupy their display pictures with my pictures, messages flowed in seamlessly on my mobile, and I received the most calls this year than the past. My family was tremendous as usual, as they called and gave me a blast with those married having their husband and friends call me. This year also, a special friend called me before 12AM and did not go off the line until 3AM. I never felt such sacrificial love before.

I enjoyed the privilege of my very close friend call from Canada at the dawn of her day, which was carpeting my own day here. A host of friends spoke to me for minutes and hours the whole day exhausting their credit. The love was dauntingly overwhelming and the euphoria was so intense, my lungs breathed for joy undefined. Yesterday will forever stay memorable as it birthed the today my tomorrow stands on in terms of relationship. Though it revealed I have few friends, penetrating that circle will be difficult to achieve.

I am grateful to God for the family and friends he has blessed me with and for the life, he has guided me through; carrying me on his shoulders at ditches, wooing me with his relentless love, and covering me in the shadows of his favour and shield away from evil and the tempest of life. Truly, I have owed my life to the undying faithfulness of God, his commitment to me as been nothing short of astounding and unquantifiable. Through my wretchedness clothed by sin, he has availed to me the compassion and love for the sake of Christ my saviour.

As there is no day without night, and no joy without sadness, my life is not perfect and never will be. I am always going to be a work in progress and nothing that I am is of my own doing. After all, if God does not build the house, those who do it, do so in vain. My pains, I have kept only to God and my joy, you have seen. For one I never thought I would be single at this age. By single, I mean unmarried without children, but here I am writing to you as a bachelor. I realise today also that has been exclusively my fault and I am working on that as well. I have many wishes still obscure but I am close to the finish line now than ever. The battles I have won had given opportunity to new battles and this challenges I revel in with intrepid guts.

Largely, I am thankful for the life I have and I will not trade places for any reason. I have little, I want more, but I am contented with no grain of doubt.

Doumo arigatou gozaimasu, (thank you very much in Japanese) I have learnt this other phase just to express my heartfelt gratitude to you all. I immensely love every bit of the second the Lord delivers me to life, and for the impact, we have had on each other. Together, let us celebrate many more.

Affectionately yours.