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FROM DESPAIR TO HAPPINESS

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Many a time, life throws at us too many huddles to cross all at once and subsequently, we slip into a state of having the feeling of losing all hope. We become sad, increasingly having a sense of despair overwhelm us, which forces us into thinking a particular situation is hopeless lacking change or improvement.

If we are not careful, we could lose touch with reality and unknowingly start to slip into depression, assuming the world is against us; thus, gradually switching off from the world and more into our shells, becoming agitated and uninterested in everything. In fact, most times, the zeal to living diminishes rapidly and we start to pay less attention to the things that used to matter. All our ideologies and principles, which we ordinarily would not compromise, we breach and then we start to let our emotions flow with the current leading to a place of nonchalance.

Numerous reasons account for the boundless reasons why any human will become despondent. It varies from the least tangible to the most significant. However, a common trait of a despairing individual is battered hopes, dreams, and aspirations after conscientiously investing our efforts. A man’s life is determined on the amount of goals he has achieved after he has set out to do it. Where he constantly fails after putting his hope on it, there is only a thin line to falling into a place of despair.

Despairing can be provoked from wishes not fulfilled, broken promises, failing health, stigmatisation, perpetual failure, or being let down by the people we count on.

As much as it is normal to be glum for it is only human to be disappointed when our desires are not satisfied. We must continually strive not to be stuck in this horrible state of mind. Hence, one must come out of it into a state of bliss and sincere joy. How then does one move from being despair to happiness?

It is imperative to note that whether we are despondent or happy is a choice. We are responsible for our state of mind. We can either choose to be pleased with whom we are and whatever happens to us by showing pleasure and delight in all circumstances or choose to be downcast, sorrowful, and depressed with what life throws at us.

The first steps to becoming happy after a terrible ordeal, which can dampen our spirit, is to asking ourselves what we could have done about that situation to avoid, averted, or change it. Where it is clear that it is not in our power, then accepting that we could not have done any better might ease such pain. In other words, what we cannot change, we cannot worry over.

Similarly, we must become aware that worry will take us nowhere. Worrying is like taking poison and waiting for another person to die. In popular terms, worry is similar to a rock chair; it gets you doing something but it will not get you anywhere. To worry is to question things that have already taken its shape, which then becomes luggages on our soul, weighing us down. In the real sense, there are things a man does not question and if one does, he has brain turmoil instead of food indigestion.

We must also know that a man’s heart is strong and he grows what he can tend. Thus, our hearts are strong enough to take all challenges but it grows all we sow in it. Where all we feed it with are negative thoughts, and endless sadness, it gives us a distraught spirit; burdened with pains from what we have fed it with for it carefully tends all we put into it.

There have been stories of how often people find it difficult to battle with challenges or to recover form impairments, losses – especially change in status, which leaves them devastatingly broken resulting into life long emotional illnesses to contend with all because of their desperate thoughts which have brought them into deep sorrow. They forget that tomorrow is a journey yet embarked on and with its fruits still unknown.

Rather than lament over any circumstances why not be hopeful while remaining thankful. After all, a man does not know where he meets his luck and sometimes, some things occur that should not be questioned; but left that way. Indeed, every man must essentially continue in its pursuit of happiness no matter what life throws at us.

ADEKANYE ADEYINKA OLAJIDE.