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Pragmatic, reserved and a deep thinker who loves family, sports especially football where am married to two wives: the first, AC Milan who has my loyalty and the second wife, Manchester United who has all my undying love and pampering, lifestyle and society parties. Need I say the law is more than a profession but a lifestyle for me.

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BABY MAMA'S, INDEPENDENT WOMEN, AND SINGLE MOTHERS; WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR WOMEN?

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I used to think marriage is necessary and deem it a sacred institution not toiled with by people. Well, at least that is how my parents trained me: to value companionship, friendship, family, and marriage. More importantly, it was perpetually rang to me that family is priceless, a gift of God to every man – they are the only bunch of people you do not choose of your own volition.

Asides, they read to me times without number from the scriptures, which I have grown to understand myself that man must procreate; but first, he must find his better half. All these became a seal upon my heart and they had deep meaning and became core values.

Reality of growing up in a very different world has become a tough challenge I have had to contend with over time. Alas, all my ideologies appear to contradict with the new way of life.

True, change is the only constant thing in this hyperactive flux life and one has to be readily accessible to adapt to these vagaries.

My causes of disagreement however, are there no values no more? Alternatively, has there been a change in the definition of right from wrong? Have we totally eroded values for a treacherous way of life? Are there no tenets that guide the principles of living no more? Above all, are the new ways of life and the ever-reflective law of the society far above the provisions of the laws of God?

These questions in my head are numerous as the sands of the earth and they flow constantly in my mind ceaselessly like the Niger waters; burning through my head as the bushes of Manhattan.

I know you will be wondering where exactly am headed and it is the new role embraced by women.

I do not know if you all have noticed that the spate of ‘baby mama’s’ is on a rapid high leaving this way of life far spreading across the world like virus. Oh forgive my English ‘baby mama’s’ are those who unceremoniously just give birth for a man and have the children just bare his name. These women are so comfortable with having babies outside wedlock with no form of commitment that they even go as far as choosing targets having up to 3-5 baby fathers from the high echelon of men in the society. The reasons for this, I still cannot fathom.

Similarly, are the independent women; as admirable as these women seem because of their addiction to self-sustenance and self-sufficiency, together with their charming ‘boss’ like lifestyle, I still do not get why anyone will want to do all independently of a man in her life. Are we not supposed to be each others helping mates though respecting individual goals? Do not get me wrong, there is no crime in being a goal getter independent of any reliance on another, but why should it be done at the expense of completely alienating men?

There are also the single mothers. Am not referring to those who inadvertently or irresponsibility of some men have been put in such positions. However, those who would rather than put up with rigours of marriage or for not wanting to submit to any man, abandon such marriages and become single mothers.

Honestly, I hope someone can enlighten me on why women no longer value companionship and the institution of marriage because even divorce (a discussion for another day) is escalating. Are men now a tool of satisfying desires and sexual fantasies these days?

ADEKANYE ADEYINKA OLAJIDE.