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Pragmatic, reserved and a deep thinker who loves family, sports especially football where am married to two wives: the first, AC Milan who has my loyalty and the second wife, Manchester United who has all my undying love and pampering, lifestyle and society parties. Need I say the law is more than a profession but a lifestyle for me.

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THE LITTLE THINGS THAT ADD UP.

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Have you all noticed that finding an original of anything is virtually impossible? Even human beings are now a counterfeit! Nothing seams real anymore. There is about everything to replace any fault inherent in any human. Be it silicon’s, plastic surgeries, replacements or enlargements of all kinds. This is not to undermine the purpose upon which anyone will decide what to do to their bodies.

But the truth is to keeping your relationship; it requires conscientious efforts at getting better and doing all within your power to accept the fallibility of men. We must constantly love through our incompetence and disappointments that we might suffer in the course of loving. No human is perfect hence chances are that we fall short of what is expected of us.

There is no gram of doubt in me that appearance is a criterion to loving; after all, people only care for what you can offer them. However, it is obvious too that there far more pertinent things, which weigh on our minds and persuade us to desire certain people more than others due to specific delights. These often considered too minute to take cognisance of, get to hunt us at the long run and eventually take the relationship we have so scrupulously built away from us. Many people recklessly disregard these little details while paying strict attention to such things as: friendship, love, communication and the likes. Definitely, these mentioned ingredients are the core upon which relationships are built and determine if indeed, it will last at all.

On the other hand, is it not a prerequisite that we refine ourselves and tutor ourselves in acts that will make us so alluring and captivating so the heart of the beloved will be fascinated by the little that we do but, that count? What has happened to cleanliness? One can be as beautiful as the summer day; though more lovely, or even have the most perfect of shapes with the most salacious body, I tell you if such lacks cleanliness by the way which is next to holiness, that individual will be looked upon with so much disdain as well as utmost derision. Thus it is vital that as individuals we pay attention to our appearance.

At all times, we must be at our best both inwardly and outwardly. The Yoruba people will say “the stench perceived is as a result of her husband’s demise which has caused her much pain” forgetting she is actually known to be a dirty woman. Similarly, many men blame their body odour on their masculinity. I really can’t stop struggling with this excuse. How do you expect your woman to want to move close to you when you smell like a pig? Yet you blame your woman for going out to cheat on you; our body is the first point of contact so we must do all to make it smell nice – have regular baths, wash dirty cloths and wear nice colognes. Some men carry bushy hair, you almost think it is a jungle up there. If you want to carry such hairdo, you must be able to treat it well. Where you can, trimming it will be more appropriate. Just be fresh!


By the same token, I will like to suggest that we brush our teeth as often as we can to avoid any form of embarrassment from our partners. If we are truthful to each other, we all know no one likes to kiss a person with a terrible mouth odour. Our petulance to such person is as if there is an emergency to ditch ship. It is not too palatable to open ones mouth and have the whole place filled with offensive smell. Let us care about this little things and seek professional help if need be.

Most people don’t even pay attention to how they talk. The tone, note and style of our voice actually count. Some people talk with an abrasive voice; when you hear them talk, you think it is mud splash or sound of meat being fried in hot vegetable oil. It is very essential that we talk with lots of show of love and an emotion. By adjusting our voices to particular situations as the need arises. You must pay attention to your surrounding and the mood of the partner. You can’t be delivering a romantic speech meant only for an individual, yet sound like you are addressing the multitude. For ladies, it must be in voices capable even of putting the gods to sleep at noon; the voice must serenade and warm ones heart.

Another thing we often don’t pay attention to is how we walk. When you see some ladies walk, you think there is war because their gait is resemblance to those in a match past that will presage their movement to war-front. They stroll like the burden of the world is right at their feet; there is no grace or elegance in their approach. A lady ought to learn to move in such an enticing or uncontainable way, fashioning her steps to that of the movement of a snake or cat walking like every step is at a beauty stage. For the men, there is nothing tantalising in seeing you walk like a masquerade that bears fire on its head. Men also, can be elegant as well; at least with poise and proper carriage, you will appear more appealing.

Often times, you see ladies when on dates guzzling alcohol like they are camels. some down countless bottles that even men dare not attempt to. These ladies disregard the norms and elegance attributed to women. They are even as vulgar as most men. Though tradition has to be respected; but nothing is more shameful than a partner who speaks in vernacular at public functions more than they can speak in English. When some speak, I tell you to find armour against such missiles.

Am sure you will quite agree with me that to have a successful relationship, we need to package ourselves very well and pay attention to the little details; for they are the ones that add up.

- ADEKANYE ADEYINKA OLAJIDE.